Betrayal

My wife is listening to an audio book, sorry that I don't know the name of it but it sounds intriguing.  She likes to update me when she gets to an interesting idea the author is expressing. This one is a psychology book based on your behavior to different situations. When the author got to the part where he or she spoke of betrayal, the cheating spouse, it is okay if they cheat and accept it! That was the brief intriguing part :)
When I worked with Perkins, there was a required book for all managers to "read". Strength Finders. The quotation marks are there because you don't actually read the book. Buy the books, rip open the secret page with a code, go online to take an assessment. After you find out your strengths,  then you read about what you are good at.
8 years ago, my boss was surprised at my number 2 strength: Relator. I can be a hard man to deal with sometimes so the name of the attribute caught him off guard. The truth of it is that yes, I can relate to people, understand what it is like to be in their shoes, draw a few close in a circle of friends but at a cost.
It was explained to me once that the circle of friendship and/or confidence that a relator has is, at best, precarious. It is more like the old albums playing on 33. The record spins slowly toward the center and much faster on the outer edge. When an inner circle member is guilty of betrayal, they slide outside the slow moving, tight center to the quicker pace of the album's 2nd or 3rd song. A most likely they will never return to the slow moving middle.
The writer of Sveta's book claimed that if your spouse needs to find a lover, accept it. It's your fault. You are not what that person needs. And to make that person happy, allow them to continue in this behavior.
Just move on with your life without them. Leave. Get out. Let them be who they are but not drag you down with them. Let them slide out to the first track.
6 years of friendship and trust came to a screeching halt today in my work life, my inner circle. Now the only decision to make is do I flip to 45rpms or 78?